house calls are not something i would take as "helping". knowing that i'm already facing such a huge problem trying to fix 2 incompetent adults, who happened to fall into the category of "parents", and yet just sitting there barely raising an eyebrow of what i'm struggling and still dare open mouth to comment, seriously, that's the last thing i need.
how about paving the road for me, just this
once? never this initiative. what about calling the rest of the relatives and shame that obnoxious couple? nope, barely even want any contacts of that sort. transferring money monthly over to the account is prolly the
max can be done.
if you happened not to be the lead cast, nobody would exactly know how anxious this whole event, especially dealing with hurtful actions from the heads of the family. or they supposedly to be the "heads" of the family. since the pillars of the family tree have gone separate ways, who is supposedly to be the main support? and even the next main support is uselessly helpless, is there anyone i can still look forward for help?
expectations too high? a matter of "face" to turn up for the banquet is
expectations too high? having my OWN family to witness my marriage is
expectations too high? in fact, i shouldnt be expecting coz' it SHOULD BE in that way! sorry, probably i haven't come to terms where i'm deemed to be raised by a single parent and not by
both (mind you) for my entire 23 years of living.
so i guess if a bride wants her own siblings and parents to be present at her wedding, she's EXPECTING TOO MUCH. coz' theoretically speaking, only one of them present to represent the family can make do.
has anybody think in my point of view? how would it looked upon ME if i've LIVING parents but either one is not there? does anyone consider about me having to face my in-laws? talk is cheap, really. if everything is only surface deep, seriously, that's practically living in vain. i thought older supposed to be wiser, not superficial!
setting my foot straight, whichever childish adult (in the "parents " category) would not turn up for my banquet, aka not giving me face, i won't toast my final cup of tea to him or her. i don't see why would either one of them demand my respect when they didn't respect me. take it as severe ties or whatever you put it, i wouldn't give a damn. after all, i'll be abiding my future-in-laws, not them anymore.
ironically, my in-laws deserved my respect more than my own. even if they would to sympathize me, i can FEEL it. rather than standing at one corner and do NOTHING.
in addition, marriage gifts have given by the in-laws, what have
those adults gave me to 陪嫁？don't have to rack your brains, it's easy to guess. NONE (most likely).
anyway, things i'll be paying for myself coz' i don't have the luxury of PROPER family love:
- New bedroom furnitures (including all other accessories)
- Wedding bands
- Pre-wedding photoshoots & Videography
- Wedding Banquet
- Soleumnisation
anybody, SGD$10k ang bao would be good.
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it's quite alot of fun fitting on one by one... tiring too. 